I like what this Army officer had to say about sexual harassment in the military.
|—||“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org (via albinwonderland)|
Gamespot’s response to the backlash that they, and the game’s reviewer Carolyn Petit, got for their review of GTAV
This is just perfect.
Gamespot just earned a shit ton of respect from me.
I’m fucking tired of gaming communities saying “Gaming journalism is a joke!” and then gamers simultaneously flinging shit at journalists who actually critically analyze video gaming. This happens all the fucking time - gamers paradoxically want good journalists and journalists who don’t treat gaming as an art form. The end result is that if you take games “too seriously,” gamers lose their shit and treat you like you’re trying to “interject discourse that doesn’t exist in the first place.”
IT IS A VALID AND IMPORTANT CRITICISM THAT GTA V IS MISOGYNISTIC, OBJECTIFIES WOMEN, AND VIRTUALLY HAS NO ROOM FOR WOMEN BUT AS SEX OBJECTS. THIS IS A REAL PROBLEM IN THE SERIES THAT HAS EXISTED
FOR YEARSSINCE IT WAS FIRST CREATED, AND IT NEEDS TO BE UNDERSTOOD THAT THE SERIES WILL NOT RECEIVE PERFECT SCORES UNTIL THE GAME STARTS TO FIX THESE GLARING ISSUES
I love gaming, but I’m not about to sit around and let good game series get overhyped and pampered by their community. If gamers want video gaming to be taken seriously, they need to bite the bullet and allow social critique to enter gaming. Gaming often contributes directly back to misogyny, racism, etc. and we have major gender discrimination across the spectrum on gaming websites. Gaming is virtually stuck in the 1950s, with how gamers often treat gender topics and assert masculinity in competitive gaming.
A lot of people are sick and tired of it, and introducing a verified academic subject into a gaming review is not “stupid” - it’s an incredibly valid and important critique. The fact that the gaming community refuses to recognize that is utterly disgraceful.
notice how the anti-feminist rhetoric hasn’t changed? “Oh, you’re a feminist? you must never get laid, haha! that’s why you want equal rights for women!”
That comment right there.^^^
Looks like this essay was needed, so I went ahead and did it. Not sure I said everything I wanted to say, but I tried.
So, there’s this girl. She’s tragically orphaned and richer than anyone on the planet. Every guy she meets falls in love with her, but in between torrid romances she rejects them all because she dedicated to what is Pure and Good. She has genius level intellect, Olympic-athelete level athletic ability and incredible good looks. She is consumed by terrible angst, but this only makes guys want her more. She has no superhuman abilities, yet she is more competent than her superhuman friends and defeats superhumans with ease. She has unshakably loyal friends and allies, despite the fact she treats them pretty badly. They fear and respect her, and defer to her orders. Everyone is obsessed with her, even her enemies are attracted to her. She can plan ahead for anything and she’s generally right with any conclusion she makes. People who defy her are inevitably wrong.
God, what a Mary Sue.
I just described Batman.
Wish fulfillment characters have been around since the beginning of time. The good guys tend to win, get the girl and have everything fall into place for them. It’s only when women started doing it that it became a problem.
READ THIS I BEG OF YOU.
I want to tell you guys a joke. Okay. Here’s the joke. Ready? Misandry. Haha! Get it? No?
Okay. I’ll explain it. I know that will make it less funny because explaining jokes makes them less funny, but I want you to be in on the joke too. Because in the end it matters to me that you understand this. Because we’re friends, right?
"Why are you making fun of misandry, Gingerhaze? There ARE people who hate men. And no one should be hated based on factors that they have no control over!" Right you are, Straw Man! And yeah, there ARE women who legitimately hate men. There are even probably legitimately women who want to kill men, just for being men. But guess what? That number is so incredibly small as to really not count at all in the grand scheme of things. Any scientific survey taken of that number would not really factor it at all into the final report - in the grand scheme, it’s a fluke. And that’s what we’re talking about here: the grand scheme.
The truth of the matter is that it is INCREDIBLY HARD to live as an honest-to-god misandrist. For a woman to succeed, or even survive, in today’s society, she is expected to be able to relate to, understand, admire, respect, and appeal to, men. And that’s the reason why 99.9% of “misandrists” you will see - especially on the INTERNET for chrissakes - are JOKING. Can’t you take a joke? Men have no sense of humor, do they!
See what I did there? I made a joke at the expense of men. Misandry! Does that affect your life? Not really. Because the joke depends on the fact that, hey, in every other situation that’s what people say about women! That’s right! EVERY OTHER SITUATION.
Because for me, misogyny affects every single part of my life. All the time. A lot of this I’m just used to, and I just go about my life. I relate to men and I like men and I try to appeal to men in order to succeed, just like everyone else. I’m a pretty chill person. But it gets frustrating. Oh boy, does it.
So I make jokes. I flip the scenarios where I can and I try to make something out of it that I can laugh at, when really it’s not funny at all.
MISANDRY ISN’T REAL. That is, there is no social institution in place to enforce it. Are feminists too hard on you? Do you really think feminists are calling the shots in this world? Ha. They’re not, yo. Actually we’re living in a world that’s trying very hard to beat feminists down.
What’s happening when you cry “misandry” is you’re taking a very small slice of the problem and choosing to look only at that. Do you think My Little Pony is misandrist for having so few male characters? See, that’s FUNNY to everyone else, because we’ve been experiencing a wide spectrum of media where women make up only like,15-20% of characters. And now here’s this one thing where males aren’t the dominant voice and suddenly that’s misandry.
But dudes, you’re not nuts! There really is a social institution in place that negatively affects you! It makes your life harder and it might be making you miserable right now! It’s called…misogyny. Oh sure, it’s not so hard on you as it is on non-male people, but you’re definitely getting a lot of shit here too. It’s the pressure of not having sex often enough, of not being successful enough or strong enough or “man” enough, and it’s a total drag. I feel ya, bros. I really do. But really what’s happening here is you’re suffering the side effects of a culture that hates women. Because you wouldn’t want to be too much like a woman, would you? Women are a bad thing to be, right?
So don’t make it all about your problems. Help us fight the real problem. Do you hate being lumped in with rapists and wife-beaters and straight-up misogynists? Don’t come crying to me that “not all men are like that.” I KNOW that, man. How about instead you PROVE you’re not like that? How about you make it really really clear you don’t condone those guys and you call them out?
Do you get the joke now? I hope you do.
One of the most ridiculous concepts that society promotes is that we should always consider “the other side”, that we should always compromise, that the truth is always “in the middle. The problem with this is that it ignores how many stances and opinions are completely not compatible with each other.
Feminism, anti-racism, and other similar issues are not a friendly debate. They are a struggle that’s life and death for millions (or, realistically, billions) of people. They are struggles whose only eventual outcome is the eradication of what they fight against (patriarchy, white supremacy, etc). There is no compromise, there is no “truth in the middle”, and there’s certainly no “agree to disagree” about it. Either patriarchy is abolished completely or it isn’t at all; either white supremacy becomes a ridiculous relic of the past as it should be or people of color continue to suffer or be murdered in its name.
These movements can’t “consider the other side” because the other side is actively trying to eradicate them and dehumanize their participants. To agree to be dehumanized under new conditions is not acceptable. MRAs and “equalists” often wonder why feminists won’t debate them, but it’s because they don’t understand that they’re the enemy, not a like-minded person with a different approach.
this never gets old
This can be applied well to the “reverse racism” brigade as well
I’ve had multiple requests from people to make this post rebloggable. To be honest, I wasn’t even sure I was going to bother because continuing to talk about this is just so darn exhausting at this point. It’s very easy to feel like, “What’s the point?” When it comes to DC Comics and issues of gender…I think we are all feeling more than a little drained, tired and apathetic at this point in time. It’s tough to even find the energy to have the conversation because no matter what we do or say there are always people there ready to shout us down, tell us to be quiet and silence us. I know some really brilliant women who just flat out don’t have the strength to engage anymore and frankly, I’m nearing that point myself.
I want to make something very clear though: The writer of the the new Superman/Wonder Woman book, Charles Soule is a nice man and a good writer who was hired to do a job. I don’t particularly agree with some of the things he has said in his recent blog post (in fact, I think he’s missing some really key points) but there are ways to discuss these things with him and others while being civil. Does that mean you can’t debate? Argue? Challenge? Of course you can. But if you are going to engage with this man please keep that in mind. You can challenge and you can disagree but cursing at this man is something I want no part of. If you link my post to him with curse words, I want nothing to do with you.
Here we go kids…
I’ve got three things I’ve got to get turned in today, two kids to get fed and dressed and a bag to pack and a flight to catch, so I can’t respond to this the way I’d like, but I’m putting it here so I don’t forget.
I also need to let my temper subside a bit. If I were to reply right now I’d resort to name-calling and insults and we all know there’s no ground to be gained there.
Instead, when I’m not shaking anymore, I’ll recount my career trajectory AGAIN. [Magazine writer/research assistant—>comic reviewer—>7 years adapting manga into English—>anthology shorts—>co-writing gigs—>one-shots—>minis—->ongoings]
Maybe I’ll get Alejandro Arbona to attest—AGAIN!—that I was blind-submitted for my first gig at Marvel. I’ll offer that if you’re looking for Men to Credit for My Career, you should look first to Neil Gaiman, Warren Ellis, Peter Rose, Steve Niles and Jamie Rich — all of whom were responsible for making introductions or getting me chances to submit my work well before Matt Fraction had any pull in the industry. (I’ll also state in no uncertain terms that I wasn’t sleeping with any of those men, because I know, dear Anon, that is your next assumption.) Or Brian Bendis, who had championed my work in a way I will never be able to adequately thank him for. (Ditto Steve Wacker.)
(Also not sleeping with Brian or Steve, just so we’re clear.)
Maybe I’ll ponder why it isn’t Fraction who’s considered to have benefited from nepotism. After all, more than 10 years ago now, Matt Fraction was my plus one to Joe Quesada’s 40th birthday party and it was me who sent copies of Last of the Independents to Joe and Axel. I mean, clearly, it was those gestures that got Fraction his career — certainly not the merit of his work, right? I mean, come on — those Hawkeye Eisner noms are part mine, right?
(I can’t imagine how sick Fraction must be of hearing me tell that story. But I bet it’s not half as sick of it as I am.)
(The first person I met in the industry was Wil Rosado. Through him, the first editors I met were Andy Ball, who’s since moved on, and Joey Cavalieri. Just in case anybody wants to make a chart. This would be… maybe 4 years before I met Fraction, Gillen, Ellis, McKelvie et al on the WEF.)
Okay, deep breath.
Bendis is going to tell me that I shouldn’t acknowledge this, that I’m feeling trolls, but here’s the pickle: people deny that this happens. We’re told that the insults to our dignity working women face are in our imagination, that it’s a thing of sexy Mad Men past. It’s WOMEN who make this a thing, right? (Hysterical, don’t you know.) We’re to the point where I meet young women who won’t identify as feminists because the struggle is over and it’s only a thing if you make it one.
It’s not a natural assumption to leap to the conclusion that I got my job because of my marriage. It’s the product of deeply-ingrained sexist thinking. I can name for you a half a dozen men who did, in fact, get their first big two gigs because of who they knew and their dignity and their qualifications have never been called into question. I’m lucky if I go a week.
I was recently directed to a post on a snake pit of a message board (what was I thinking, even going to look?) by a man I’d known as long as I’d known my husband, a man I’d met at the same time—a man who had felt free to ask professional favors of me on multiple occasions—who was lamenting how “easily” I’d gotten to where I was because of Fraction. When friends of mine pointed him to my CV, he half-apologized because he had no idea. Apparently he thought Marvel—a publicly-owned company—was in the habit of handing out gigs to freelancer’s wives just for kicks. Then he threw up the bit about it being a natural assumption.
I would say simply ‘fuck that guy’ and chalk it up to his not being half as smart as he thinks he is, but here’s the thing:
That guy has daughters.
For them, and for my daughter and for your daughter, I am going to occasionally shine a light on these things… even though it both enrages and embarrasses me.
I don’t know if it’s the right call, but I know that ‘ignore it and it’ll go away’ isn’t working.
I need to figure out a way to contain my outrage enough to talk about it in a way that doesn’t attack, but invites dudes like Anon to rethink their ‘natural assumptions’ without setting myself up as an uppity bitch that they’re invested in proving wrong.
I… I clearly don’t know how to do that right now. But I’m going to figure it out.
Right now, the kids need breakfast and my son has questions about the xenomorph that can’t wait another second.
Jesus fucking Christ.
Kelly Sue has acknowledged more than she should ever POSSIBLY need to right now.
But it can also be summed up thusly:
KELLY SUE DeCONNICK CAN OUTWRITE 99.9% OF THE WRITERS IN COMICS ON HER WORST DAY.
Mess with HER, you mess with ME, and you mess with ALL of us who care about what we do.
Also, go fuck yourself.